workplace relationships

[anita]

seeing how we spend a huge amount of our time in the workplace, and having just come back from a bar session during which a colleague of mine was shamelessly hitting on me, just wondering what the general feeling is about office 'romance'... what do you think?

[Nic]

I hope you told him to eff off!

Seriously though, many people meet partners at work. As long as people are grown up to accept a No graciously, and accept that Yes can lead to fearful complications if things go badly wrong, what's wrong with it?

[wishiwas]

I am not in favor of workplace relationships, personally.

[Nic]

But what if you fall for somebody? Sometimes you can't help it, and if the other person feels the same way, one thing is likely to lead to another, isn't it?

I have always tried to avoid relationships at work. I did have one girlfriend who worked in the same company, but in another division and i knew her through scuba diving primarily. I've avoided "flings" at work, I think they can be potentially destructive. God knows, I've had delicious temptation thrust in my face a few times though... (as it were)

[anita]

i don't think i've ever been seriously attracted to someone at work, but i guess that has to do with the fact that most of the good looking boys and girls i supervise.... as for a proper, full blown relationship, wouldn't that be boring? you'd never have time for yourself...

[@@di]

All I have to say is don't sh1t where you eat...crude but effective.

[LostinLaMancha]

Workplace relationships are complicated, specially when they end. I'd rather stay away from them ( I have to, else my wife is probably gonna kill me ).

[wishiwas]

Nic,

If the company is huge and the other person is not involved in my area of work, then I might consider it.

For small companys, NO WAY. If there is some undeniable attraction, one of us would have to find another job!

[Nic]

And I don't believe in in-block relationships either. Do you have a view?

Mine's of Manhattan. :p

[anita]

i'm having an ultra-boring day so i think my perception of workplace relationships, especially the fling category, is changing radically. idle hands... ;)

[Nic]

Cross-Newport liaisons are OK. What do you say?

[anita]

i say it depends on your view :p

[Jay3]

Dont dip your dink in the company's ink.

[Pacific Blues]

Don't poop in your own backyard.

Actually I'm guilty of not eating my own dogfood on 2 occasions, but no problems so far. I did have a disaster with a past roommate however. So work is ok, roomates bad.

[Richard L]

Dating someone at work is like passing a football.. There a 3 possible outcomes and two of them are bad.

[ercarta]

Dating someone at work is like passing a football.. There a 3 possible outcomes and two of them are bad.

I hear you. You either cause a major interference in your work/life, fumble to keep to keep the two balanced with a chance that you may lose one or the other, or actually score a touch down.

Ideally people go into these relationships hoping for the latter however, I would bet that there are more instances where you either fumble and turn the relationship over or the relationship becomes an interference with life and/or work. I'm a realist, can you tell.

Workplace relationships are bad news. As a wise uncle of mine used to advise me... "There are plenty of fish in the see Eric, why don't you throw that one back in?"

[bonacera]

I agree, but if you can't avoid it, try to keep it as a secret. Flashing a workplace relationship is another no..no...

[ercarta]

I would only imagine when a workplace relationship goes belly up someone ends up losing their job. That must be the ultimate distraction, not to mention all the negative buzz created about you by co-workers. Unless you work for a large firm and in two different departments. I firmly believe workplace relationships can turn out disastrous if they don't work out. I am private man and I enjoy a private life so I always steered clear of these types of relationships. They truly can be really bad news.